One thing that women of all shapes and sizes, from the most petite to the big and beautiful, have in common is that the lingerie they buy must make them feel wonderful about themselves. That means sexy, sensual, desirable but most significantly, special. When your special someone turns off the television because he noticed you in your sexy lingerie, it’s a definite plus and ego-boost.

Modern women of today consider their lingerie as an important part of their wardrobe. Online shopping has made it very easy, and opened up a new world for finding lingerie that is sexy, exotic and remains comfortable to wear. There are a few simple tips to bear in mind when shopping for lingerie so you will always look wonderful and feel great.

Even though all women are beautiful, there are those times when you just require something a little extra to make you sparkle, and lingerie can do that. Fashion and comfort go together like peaches and cream. Choosing the right lingerie for you may take a bit of practice, however, since there is such a tremendous range of styles available. Remember, sexy lingerie does not have to be uncomfortable.

Tips on Selecting Sexy Lingerie

The majority of women can wear red, white and black. This is why almost all sexy lingerie comes in these three colors. Blondes look beautiful in pastels; brunettes need the stronger colors like sapphire blue or emerald green, while fiery redheads look fantastic in green, blues and earth tones. Satin, lace, silk, leather, PVC, sheer mesh and velvet are just a few of the many materials available. Remember that a sheer material is always going to be more revealing.

Sexy Lingerie and Your Body Type

You need to feel comfortable with your own body before you can feel totally at ease with yourself. Emphasizing the correct body parts, which is not necessarily showing more skin, will make you feel appealing and desirable. Always accentuate your positive features and play down or understate the negative. If your body shape is straight – with bust, waist and hips almost the same choose a style that will drape over your figure and stay away from tight fitting lingerie. Comfort is just as important as the way you look. Nobody wants to feel like they are being restricted in the wrong places.

If you have:

Small breasts

Choose lingerie that shows off your bottom or legs to distract from your breast size. If you are thin try stockings and garters they do a good job of lowering the eye to the legs. You want to bring the eyes to the area of your body that you feel comfortable with.

Large or Droopy Breasts

Styles in plus size lingerie with under wire or halter tops can help lift and enhance cleavage. Spandex and Lycra stretch materials will allow you to adjust your breasts and minimize them some what with a smooth look.

Large Bottom or Hips

If you got plus size boobs show them off! A long loose gown with a sheer top would be perfect for this. Avoid fitted waist styles; go for items that are straighter cut. Remember, you want that fabric to skim, drape or flow gracefully around your hips, not bind, pull or wrinkle in the wrong places.  If you do not want to draw attention to this area, consider staying away from Lingerie pieces such as Bustiers and Waist Cinchers because these garments are tight fitted and could accentuate this area.

Belly

Keep styles loose in the waist. Use fancy thongs, panties, or bras to bring eyes to more favorable areas.  Remember, you want that fabric to skim, drape or flow and not to bind, pull or wrinkle in the wrong places.

Short

Gowns with slits in the leg area will give you a taller illusion. Short baby dolls can also give you a leggy look. Short is not a bad thing. Select styles that are proportioned for your height. Do not choose lingerie that is too long either in length or on the rise. If your height or proportion is a sizing problem, check out stores for petites. If all else fails, finding an experienced seamstress is invaluable.

Tall

Find styles that are vertically striped or cut. Tops or skirts that tie around the waist. White is a good color for you. The main thing to keep in mind about your height is to not select something that is supposed to be long but looks too short. A long, flowing sheer robe that is supposed to be roughly floor length but actually hits well above your ankles just doesn’t work. It’s better to opt for styles that are cut to be short and highlight your long, beautiful legs.

Robes

Sheer robes can give you a sense of security in sexy womens lingerie.  Robes have the amazing ability to make you feel like you have covered all of your flaws. Get a beautiful, sexy robe and it could dress up any bra and panty set and make you look and feel like a million bucks.

Body Shape

If your body shape is a Pear or Triangle: A Pear shape is smaller on top then tapers out. This does not mean small busted. This means women who have a small upper body build. Try something a little loose fitting on the top – but not too loose.

If you are a Pear or Triangle with small breasts and are sensitive about this area, choose something that does not emphasize this part of the body.  A sexy baby doll may be a good choice. If you want to add some cleavage tries something Padded or Push-up Padded

If your body shape is an Up-side Down Pear or Inverted Triangle: This body type has wider shoulders and smaller hips. This usually means a muscular or bigger upper body build. Women today work hard to have muscle tone and wear it well. If they want to If you want frills, try to look for something to wrap around the hips. You may want to add an accessory like a wrap, robe, kimono, or a feather boa.

If your body shape is an Hour Glass: This body type is equally proportioned on both the top and bottom with a smaller waist. Almost everything worked well for this body type

What Not to Wear

Beautiful lingerie and indulging yourself go together. Keeping your lingerie in good condition and properly cared for will extend its use and will help you feel comfortable and sexy. Even though most of the lingerie we wear is not seen, it still has a big affect on the way we look and the way our clothes fit. Looking fantastic makes you feel beautiful. Here are a few hints:

• Make sure your lingerie isn’t worn, ripped or the wrong size.
• Thongs and G Strings worn under tight fitting skirts and pants will prevent panty lines from showing.
• Legs look sexy and slimmer in black nylons.
• Light colors make your legs appear heavier.
• A one-piece body suit does a great job of hiding any bulges and makes you look slimmer.
• Always, and this can’t be stressed enough, wear a bra that fits correctly.

Some of us, when we think lingerie, immediately think of sexy, lacy pieces that take about 10 minutes to actually get into and about 30 seconds to take off.

You know the pieces I’m talking about–the ones that are really meant to be some eye candy for a bit but are quickly thrown to the floor a few minutes later.

Having a few of these ridiculously sexy pieces can be a ton of fun for anniversaries, special occasions, or just to surprise your husband just because! But the problem we can run into with this kind of lingerie is that it sits in the back of the dresser or the back of the closet to just be pulled out a few times a year.

And the rest of the year we’re in gym shorts and ratty t-shirts.

But many who are reading this may think “lingerie” and get incredibly uncomfortable.

Maybe you feel uncomfortable about how your body looks in lingerie. Maybe you want to be sexier, but when you try on some of those crazy sexy pieces you just feel ridiculous. Maybe you even feel a bit of shame around the idea of lingerie.

No matter if you’re the type who gravitates towards the special occasion lingerie or no lingerie at all, I want to challenge you to re-think lingerie’s role in your daily life. This month, on Wednesdays, we’re going to be talking about how to reclaim the word sexy and bring sexy back to our marriages, and I thought I’d start with a week about choosing lingerie. I’m going to let Rebecca take this one over today, because she has some pretty firm views on the subject!

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In previous generations, lingerie wasn’t just something you received at your bachelorette party.

Lingerie was simply your underthings–slips, brassieres, garters and stockings were all just a normal part of what you wore under your clothes. And then at night, women wore silk or satin night gowns, teddies, or top and bottom pieces with a robe that were clothes specifically set aside for nightwear.

And they looked awesome. Seriously, look how gorgeous these slips are (again, this was normal everyday wear!)

I think that with our over-airbrushed, over-edited, over-photoshopped modern culture we have this mindset that in order to be sexy, we need to be over the top. We need the skimpiest piece we can get that makes our boobs look as huge as possible while our waist looks incredibly slim in order to be sexy.

But the problem with that mentality is two-fold. First off, most of us will not look like models because of body type, having kids, surgeries, or what have you. Secondly, that just takes a whole lot of work. And the more work something takes, the less often it will happen.

What would happen if we went back to thinking about lingerie the way that women did in the past, where it was something comfortable and feminine that was just a part of our daily routine?

I don’t think we need to start wearing full-body slips again under our clothes. But just the idea that we can have simply, day-to-day items that are feminine, flattering, and incredibly comfy can revitalize how you see and choose lingerie.

I personally think that having a small but thoughtfully chosen lingerie collection that is appropriate for everyday wear is a game changer for sexual confidence. There’s something about having on a nightgown instead of your paint-stained gym shorts and the camp T-shirt that just makes you feel so much more put together and feminine, even though it takes literally no more effort to put on (and is just as comfy, if you choose the right pieces!).

So here are some tips and some questions to ask yourself when buying lingerie to help you choose pieces that are better for your lifestyle and better for your body so you can feel confident, beautiful, and sexy on a daily basis!

1. Focus on creating a functional lingerie wardrobe

We all need a few of those “wow” factor pieces I was talking about earlier–the ones that come out on anniversaries and birthdays. And we completely endorse shopping for some of that in the mall’s lingerie stores.

But when it comes to buying lingerie you’ll actually wear, focus on functional pieces. Pieces that can also be pyjamas, pieces that are also actual undergarments that you already wear but just a little nicer. For instance, many people swear by thongs, but others find them just plain uncomfortable. No one wants a permanent wedgie! But you don’t need a thong to have pretty underwear:

The ones on the left are still pretty without feeling “granny”, but they also won’t give you wedgies.

It’s better to buy lingerie that is pretty that you’ll actually wear than stuff you think you’re supposed to wear but you won’t because it’s uncomfortable.

Changing this mentality can help us get used to seeing ourselves more as womanly, beautiful, and sexy on a day-to-day basis. (And sex is much less exhausting to think about when you’re already wearing a cute nightgown or tank and shorts set that makes you feel beautiful and flirty than when you’re wearing a stained t-shirt and sweat pants!)

2. Try bra and panty sets

Bra and panty sets can be a lot of fun if that’s your cup of tea! And the best part is that throughout the day you’ll feel like you have a secret outfit on underneath of your real outfit–one that just you and your husband know about.

Investing in some great bras and pairs of underwear is helpful in more than one way, too: it will help you feel confident and beautiful, but it also just helps your clothes fit better! You will have fewer underwear lines, show off your curves better, and if you have large breasts having a well-fitted bra can help relieve back pain, as well.

If you’re someone who is uncomfortable with the idea of lingerie or trying on “sexy” clothes, this is a fantastic place to start. You already wear bras and underwear, so why not have fun with them? It can be a great stepping stone for those of us who are less comfortable with trying new things!

And colour can be as sexy as shape. Take the same beige bra you already wear, but make it purple with polka dots. You’ll feel more playful!

Make an appointment at a good lingerie store or a good department store for a proper bra fitting (the vast majority of us are wearing the wrong bra size; most of us need to go DOWN a band size and UP a cup size). And then try on a bunch! When you find a pretty bra that looks great, buy a few pairs of underwear (since bras can be worn more than once before washing, whereas underwear can only be worn once!). You can get everything from the high end Simone Perele bras to the lower end Victoria Secret. Have some fun trying them on!

Lingerie is an awesome way to give your man a sexy surprise and get him instantly in the mood. Most guys love the look and feel of lingerie on a woman’s body, be it lace, chiffon or satin. You can easily spice up a dull sex life or give a great sex life an incredible boost with the right lingerie.

However, choosing the right lingerie can feel like an ordeal, especially if it’s something you’re new too. It’s easy to feel confused and unsure of what to get with so many choices available. Here are ten guidelines that will help you choose the perfect lingerie that your man will love, and that you look and feel great in. You’ll find more great tips on how to be sexually adventurous in this article here.

1. IS THE LINGERIE OF GOOD QUALITY? 

It’s important that you choose lingerie that is of good quality. While you don’t have to purchase the most expensive lingerie on the rack, cheap lingerie that is of poor quality doesn’t feel good and it usually won’t look good either. Don’t buy poor quality lingerie just for the sake of buying lingerie, and remember that inexpensive doesn’t necessarily mean cheap. 

Pay attention to how the garment itself is made, and make sure there is no frayed stitching or tears. The fabric should have a quality look and feel, and it should be obvious that the garment is made with care. Spending a little more on lingerie that will last longer and looks great on you is well worth the extra money.

2. IS IT WITHIN YOUR BUDGET?

Well made or not, the lingerie should fit your budget. The cost of the lingerie should also match the quality of the garment.

A pricey piece of lingerie that looks and feels like it cost pennies to make is not something you want to invest in. There are many affordable pieces of lingerie that look great, and if you want to purchase something that is outside of your price range, try saving up and getting it later or asking the store attendant if they have something similar at a lower price point. 

3. DOES IT FLATTER YOUR FIGURE? 

Truly the most critical aspect of any lingerie is whether or not it flatters your figure. You can wear lingerie and look amazing in it whether you’re athletic or curvy, but the type of lingerie you choose matters. A great piece of lingerie should highlight your best features and downplay your flaws. It doesn’t matter if you’re tiny or have more to love, you can look great in lingerie if you just choose pieces that fit you. 

For example, if you are self conscious about your middle but have an excellent rack, the lingerie should lift your bust but have longer fabric that lays over your belly, like a empire waist teddy.

If you have a small bust but gorgeous badonk-a-donk, the lingerie should shape your bust but show off your hot “ass”-et. No matter what kind of lingerie it is, it’s important that it be fitted to keep your man’s attention on your smokin’ bod, while masking things that you might be self conscious about. For more on how to dress sexy, check out this article.

4. IS IT COMFORTABLE TO WEAR? 

Good lingerie needs to be as comfortable to wear as sexy as it is on. Lingerie that is itchy, hot, or tight is going to make wearing it a total bummer — plus, your man might very well notice that you’re uncomfortable and be distracted from getting turned on.

The last thing you want to do is be scratching, wiggling or fooling with straps because you’re uncomfortable, when you should be focused on lighting your man’s fire.

Always try lingerie on before you buy it, and make sure you could wear it comfortably for several hours before you make the purchase. You might not be wearing it that long, but you need to be confident that it’s going to look and feel great when you put it on.

5. DO YOU FEEL SEXY IN IT? 

You should always feel amazing when you wear lingerie. That’s the whole point of lingerie.

Any piece of lingerie that doesn’t make you feel like the beautiful betty you are isn’t worth the money, plain and simple. When you try on lingerie, make sure you feel like a super sexy bombshell before you swipe your credit card and take it home.

It doesn’t matter how much or how little skin it shows, or how great it looks on someone else — if you feel frumpy or less-than-stellar when you put it on, put it back. Only purchase lingerie that makes you feel like a million bucks. For more tips on feeling and being sexy.

Also, if you feel anxious at the thought of buying and wearing lingerie, then you should use some of these tips to help get rid of your sexual anxiety.

6. IS IT EASY TO TAKE OFF AND CAN YOU HAVE SEX IN IT?

While your man will definitely be into a striptease if you want to take off your lingerie before having sex, it might be even hotter to keep it on while you get down to it.

So a good question to ask is if you even can have sex in it. A skin tight leather body suit that barely lets you move isn’t going to fit the bill, nor is a piece of lingerie that has too many straps or doesn’t allow for good movement. You want lingerie that allows you to move freely and get into a variety of different positions when you’re wearing it without the need for a whole lot of adjustment. 

When you try lingerie on, imagine having sex in it. If you’re pretty sure that the lingerie would move and grind with you as you get it on, you can check this point off your list. 

7. ARE THE COLORS SIMPLE? 

Neon lingerie hardly even looks good in the nightclub, and it’s probably not going to look good in the bedroom. Steer clear of super colorful items when choosing lingerie. Simple colors without bright or busy patterns are best, and you can never, ever go wrong with basic black. Black lingerie is sexy and flattering for all body shapes and skin tones.

Red is also a good color, and white can give you a look of “innocence” that is fun and playful even beyond your wedding night. Any combination of these colors is awesome too, but steer clear of nude or skin-tone lingerie. You might as well just be naked in that case.

8. DOES IT PAIR WELL WITH ACCESSORIES? 

It’s not uncommon for a man to only notice your sexy stilettos or your jewelry when you’re wearing lingerie, so take advantage of this and make sure the lingerie you choose pairs well with accessories.

Does the neckline of the lingerie make room for a sweet and sexy necklace that shows off your cleavage, or does it lend itself well to the look of heels or thigh high boots? Before you purchase your lingerie, think about what you would wear with it and if it would look good. No lingerie is complete without a few titillating accessories.

9. DOES IT SHOW ENOUGH SKIN? 

While long nightgowns might technically count as lingerie, they’re probably not going to get your man hot and heavy.

He’ll really just want to take it off. Many men prefer to see lingerie that shows more skin instead of less and leaves only a little to the imagination (they don’t want to have to imagine the whole thing). Choose lingerie that shows a decent amount of skin and only covers up the important areas. Even better is lingerie that gives your man a glimpse of the goods under sheer lace or chiffon, so he can just barely see everything. 

10. WILL IT TURN YOUR MAN ON?

The second most important aspect of lingerie (other than it flatters your figure) is that it turns your man on. If it won’t, you might as well leave it in the store because it will just make for a pointless purchase. Many women think that any lingerie will turn a guy on, but this isn’t necessarily true.

Every guy is different with what he likes and doesn’t like, and it’s critical that you take his preferences into consideration before you buy a thing. Have you heard him mention that he loves the look of garter belts? Does he seem especially interested in push up bras? Factor anything he loves into your lingerie purchase to ensure that you’ll “wow” your man when he sees you donning your new outfit. 

Lingerie can be a purchase that lasts a lifetime and keeps your sex life hot if you follow these basic guidelines on choosing pieces that turn your man on, make you feel super sexy and look great on your body. The right lingerie can not only capture your man’s attention and keep it solely on you, it can make you feel like a sexy princess.

Remember though, confidence is the number one accessory to have when you wear lingerie. More than any push up bra or sexy pair of shoes, confidence will turn your man on and get him ready for action. Give him a sexy smile when you’re showing off your new lingerie, and let him see that you know you look amazing.