For many, taking time out to enjoy oneself sexually, alone or with a partner, can be a difficult task. Often, it’s not through lack of desire, but more a case of brain overload. Many couples and working individuals lead fast-paced, complex lives. Throw in a few social media platforms and the ability for anyone to reach you at a moment’s notice, and suddenly being able to really clear your head and enjoy yourself becomes a tall order. Even if you don’t fall into one of those categories, who doesn’t want more intimate, relaxed sexual experiences?

CBD could be the aid to just that, a more intimate experience with your partner. Or even the chance to just unwind properly before experiencing sexual pleasure. This isn’t about forced scenarios or scheduling out a whole evening to really focus, but much more of a holistic approach. CBD can be naturally and discreetly incorporated into your sex life through a variety of applications. Available in liquid or capsule form, there is a method suitable for all users.

Chemical Link Between Human Orgasm And Cannabis Plant

How can cannabis be linked to the way we feel and the chemical reactions that occur when we orgasm? The answer to that lies in something that is inside all humans, the endocannabinoid system (ECS). This is a complex network of neurochemical pathways located in the brain, central nervous system, and peripheral organs. When these pathways are stimulated by cannabinoids, the key components within cannabis, there can be a variety of positive effects.

It is this manipulation of the endocannabinoid system which has peaked interest in scientists. An experiment published in The Journal Of Sexual Medicine last year looked to investigate endocannabinoid levels in healthy male and female subjects before and after masturbation to orgasm. Endocannabinoids are the cannabinoids naturally produced by our own bodies. Interestingly, scientists found that there was an increase of endocannabinoid 2-AG (2-arachidonoylglycerol) post-orgasm in study participants.

Scientists deduced that the endocannabinoid system did, in fact, play a key part in the human sexual response. The caveat being that more research would be needed to establish what role 2-AG plays when it is released as part of sexual pleasure. Manipulation of this response through cannabinoids could kick-start the process, allowing users to replicate that “reward” chemical reaction.

Cannabinoid Receptors CB1 And CB2

The complexity of the endocannabinoid system comes down to the way it is stimulated. Stimulation is achieved via receptors throughout the system, namely CB1 and CB2. Each receptor is responsible for different chemical reactions and they both respond differently depending on their location in the body. Anandamide and 2-AG are now known to play a part in the “rewarding consequences of sexual arousal and orgasm”, showing us the importance of the endocannabinoid system in facilitating feelings of pleasure.

Relieves Sexual Anxiety And Stress

Understanding the ECS is one thing, but what practical application is there for reducing stress and anxiety? The feeling of being stressed carries with it a number of emotions. Fear, worry, and self-consciousness can all become prevalent when stressed, inhibiting your body’s natural ability to release chemicals like Anandamide and 2-AG. Knowing these play an essential role in experiencing pleasure, it is imperative we try to remove this stress and anxiety to truly feel intimate with our partners and ourselves.

CBD, a phytocannabinoid found in the cannabis plant, takes the limelight in this situation. This cannabinoid is known to relieve stress, yet it carries none of the psychoactive properties associated with THC. For many, sexual experiences while under the influence of a psychoactive substance are not ideal, whereas CBD leaves participants in complete control, but without all the anxiety.

Improves Communication And Vivid Thought

Whilst the ECS plays a part in pleasurable experiences, it is the sexual inhibition system (SIS) and the sexual excitation system (SES) which regulate sexual desire. Successful interaction between these two systems is what many people describe as being “in the mood”, a desire to engage sexually. As the names would indicate, the SIS is designed to inhibit our desire for sex whilst the SES is aimed at encouraging.

Improved communication and intimacy are driven by the strength of our desire. To that end, decreasing the activation of our SIS is essential. Stress actually strengthens the inhibiting abilities of the SIS, preventing the SES from stepping in.

Enhance And Energise

In addition to the aforementioned, several other factors can impact sexual enjoyment. One of those is erectile dysfunction, often a result of weakened blood flow and tissue damage. A potential influence in erectile dysfunction is the build-up of a toxin called dioxin. Promoted by dietary choices and environmental influences, removal of dioxin from the body can only be seen as beneficial. As diverse as we know CBD to be, it can also aid the body in flushing out dioxin, limiting its lingering presence in our fat cells.

1. Dildos

While they might seem almost quaint in comparison to all the vibrating, high-tech, action-packed toys available now, dildos remain a classic that plenty of women and even more men are super into. “I’ve seen people move from secrecy, silence, and shame into an open, cool, and trendy attitude toward sex toys of all kinds, from dildos to anal beads,” says clinical sexologist Marlene Wasserman, DHS. “I like when people stretch their sexual boundaries to leave their comfort zones, which can turn into a wonderful feeling of personal success and newly discovered pleasures—or dislikes. Either way, you’re learning something about your body and your partner.”

If you’re looking for the feeling of penetration that’s closest to a real penis, dildos are the way to go. They come in a variety of shapes, lengths, and widths, so take those into account when you’re shopping (some women may find that slightly curved ones are better at getting them off, since they’ll give your clit and G-spot more direct action), and consider using them both vaginally and anally. “My ex liked to dabble with a dildo—for him, not me!” says Audrey, age 30, of Los Angeles. “I wasn’t that into it; I prefer real D or a vibrator while we’re going at it, but he seemed to like the novelty and forbidden feeling of the dildo.”

2. Butt Plugs

Consider butt plugs your introduction to anal play. “Anal toys are popular with women even though they have no prostate or nerves to directly cause orgasm within the anus, they can be a huge mental turn-on,” says Wasserman. “If you’re a beginner, start with a shower and get clean beforehand, and then have your partner stimulate you with his fingers—or tongue, if he’s adventurous—before inserting a plug, vibrator, or beads.” She also suggests using latex gloves or condoms on fingers for cleanliness and anal lube for comfort and glide.

“I’ve found the key to introducing toys, whether anal ones, clamps, or otherwise, is all about expectation-setting and preparation,” says Katie, age 30, of New York City. “I mean, butt plugs are honestly a bit scary looking—even if they’re pastel pink—and if your partner’s only knowledge about using them is from porn, the night probably won’t end well. I like to get in teacher mode to walk them through how it feels for me as we’re doing it. And it never hurts to get comfortable with the toy solo beforehand, to explore how your body reacts.”

3. Nipple Clamps

Attaching these guys to your nips hurts—but it’s supposed to. So much of BDSM play is about the hurts-so-good kind of pain that can be a super-hot sensation for many people, if for no reason other than the fact that it’s so different from what we feel on an everyday basis.

Says Sarah, 27, of London, “It’s when my boyfriend takes the clamps off that it hurts the most—and I love it. The blood comes racing back into my nipples after being cut off, and it feels incredible. But don’t leave them on for too long, or you can cut off circulation to your nipples!” Many clamps come with fancy features like adjustable pressure, a vibrating option, and waterproof coating, but Sarah says she’s heard that clothespins can be just as effective, if you don’t want to buy real ones.

4. Vibrators

These should be your go-to sex toy, for solo and couple’s play, says Wasserman. “I suggest that women have a variety of vibrators—different shapes, sizes, and types of stimulators to match their mood and whatever sensation they’re looking for at that moment. Sometimes you might want a big, vibrating dildo that you can thrust at your own tempo, and other times you might want to use a vibrating butt plug.” Don’t worry that using a vibrator regularly will overstimulate your clit or mess with your ability to come with a good, old-fashioned penis—“that’s a myth,” says Wasserman. “It’s women’s responsibility to find what does it for them and be sexually vulnerable. Sex toys tend to predictably bring women to orgasm, so go ahead and use them!”

“My boyfriend and I had a perfectly good sex life, but bringing my vibrator into the mix stepped things up a notch,” says Amy, 29, of New York City. “Sometimes it takes me a really long time to come from regular sex, whereas that’s rarely the case for him. When we don’t have the time or energy for an hours-long sesh, the vibrator comes to the rescue by getting me off faster and with less work on both our parts.”

5. Handcuffs

Handcuffs are more about the mental and emotional turn-on than the physical sensation, says Wasserman. “It can be very arousing to discuss the scene you’ll set up and get the necessary consent,” she says. “It’s fabulous fantasy play and gaining more popularity because of recent exposure and normalization in the media.”

Just be careful—if you’re going for a super-authentic prisoner fantasy that involves real metal cuffs, they can hurt. “Soft, cushy ones are a must,” says Jen, 30, of Rutland, Vermont. “I love feeling a little out of control when my partner cuffs me up—especially when every other part of my life requires effort and attention.”

6. Clitoral Massagers

For women who have a tough time coming from other sex toys (or partners, even) a vibrator that focuses purely on stimulating the most sensitive part of your vagina could be the silver bullet. Wasserman is a big fan of women advocating for their clits. “Distressingly, men don’t spend enough time on clitoral play, and women remain silent about their clitoral needs,” she says. “Use your clitoral massager while being thrusted; use it afterward when you’re swollen and he’s fallen asleep; let him or her see you using it so it becomes a couple activity,” she suggests.

“I used to think I wasn’t able to orgasm, because nothing seemed to work on my clit,” says Emily, 30, of Boston. “A clitoral stimulator—which I now own several of—changed that. They rock my world every time, and the rest of my sex toy collection goes pretty much unused now.” Sold yet?

7. Anal Beads

Slightly different from butt plugs in that they insert one individual bead at a time, rather than smoothly and gradually like a plug, anal beads provide a pop feeling with each larger size that goes in. And while any sort of anal toy and play will help prep you for actual anal sex, butt plugs might be a bit more similar to how that will feel.

“I’ve used both plugs and beads, and I like both, but I think it’s more important to invest in a high-quality set of beads if that’s what you’re into,” says Alyssa, age 26, of New York City. “The last thing you want is a cheap pair of beads breaking when they’re inside you! Oh, and with either one, make sure to use a ton of lube, otherwise it’ll be more pain than pleasure.” Good to know.

One thing that women of all shapes and sizes, from the most petite to the big and beautiful, have in common is that the lingerie they buy must make them feel wonderful about themselves. That means sexy, sensual, desirable but most significantly, special. When your special someone turns off the television because he noticed you in your sexy lingerie, it’s a definite plus and ego-boost.

Modern women of today consider their lingerie as an important part of their wardrobe. Online shopping has made it very easy, and opened up a new world for finding lingerie that is sexy, exotic and remains comfortable to wear. There are a few simple tips to bear in mind when shopping for lingerie so you will always look wonderful and feel great.

Even though all women are beautiful, there are those times when you just require something a little extra to make you sparkle, and lingerie can do that. Fashion and comfort go together like peaches and cream. Choosing the right lingerie for you may take a bit of practice, however, since there is such a tremendous range of styles available. Remember, sexy lingerie does not have to be uncomfortable.

Tips on Selecting Sexy Lingerie

The majority of women can wear red, white and black. This is why almost all sexy lingerie comes in these three colors. Blondes look beautiful in pastels; brunettes need the stronger colors like sapphire blue or emerald green, while fiery redheads look fantastic in green, blues and earth tones. Satin, lace, silk, leather, PVC, sheer mesh and velvet are just a few of the many materials available. Remember that a sheer material is always going to be more revealing.

Sexy Lingerie and Your Body Type

You need to feel comfortable with your own body before you can feel totally at ease with yourself. Emphasizing the correct body parts, which is not necessarily showing more skin, will make you feel appealing and desirable. Always accentuate your positive features and play down or understate the negative. If your body shape is straight – with bust, waist and hips almost the same choose a style that will drape over your figure and stay away from tight fitting lingerie. Comfort is just as important as the way you look. Nobody wants to feel like they are being restricted in the wrong places.

If you have:

Small breasts

Choose lingerie that shows off your bottom or legs to distract from your breast size. If you are thin try stockings and garters they do a good job of lowering the eye to the legs. You want to bring the eyes to the area of your body that you feel comfortable with.

Large or Droopy Breasts

Styles in plus size lingerie with under wire or halter tops can help lift and enhance cleavage. Spandex and Lycra stretch materials will allow you to adjust your breasts and minimize them some what with a smooth look.

Large Bottom or Hips

If you got plus size boobs show them off! A long loose gown with a sheer top would be perfect for this. Avoid fitted waist styles; go for items that are straighter cut. Remember, you want that fabric to skim, drape or flow gracefully around your hips, not bind, pull or wrinkle in the wrong places.  If you do not want to draw attention to this area, consider staying away from Lingerie pieces such as Bustiers and Waist Cinchers because these garments are tight fitted and could accentuate this area.

Belly

Keep styles loose in the waist. Use fancy thongs, panties, or bras to bring eyes to more favorable areas.  Remember, you want that fabric to skim, drape or flow and not to bind, pull or wrinkle in the wrong places.

Short

Gowns with slits in the leg area will give you a taller illusion. Short baby dolls can also give you a leggy look. Short is not a bad thing. Select styles that are proportioned for your height. Do not choose lingerie that is too long either in length or on the rise. If your height or proportion is a sizing problem, check out stores for petites. If all else fails, finding an experienced seamstress is invaluable.

Tall

Find styles that are vertically striped or cut. Tops or skirts that tie around the waist. White is a good color for you. The main thing to keep in mind about your height is to not select something that is supposed to be long but looks too short. A long, flowing sheer robe that is supposed to be roughly floor length but actually hits well above your ankles just doesn’t work. It’s better to opt for styles that are cut to be short and highlight your long, beautiful legs.

Robes

Sheer robes can give you a sense of security in sexy womens lingerie.  Robes have the amazing ability to make you feel like you have covered all of your flaws. Get a beautiful, sexy robe and it could dress up any bra and panty set and make you look and feel like a million bucks.

Body Shape

If your body shape is a Pear or Triangle: A Pear shape is smaller on top then tapers out. This does not mean small busted. This means women who have a small upper body build. Try something a little loose fitting on the top – but not too loose.

If you are a Pear or Triangle with small breasts and are sensitive about this area, choose something that does not emphasize this part of the body.  A sexy baby doll may be a good choice. If you want to add some cleavage tries something Padded or Push-up Padded

If your body shape is an Up-side Down Pear or Inverted Triangle: This body type has wider shoulders and smaller hips. This usually means a muscular or bigger upper body build. Women today work hard to have muscle tone and wear it well. If they want to If you want frills, try to look for something to wrap around the hips. You may want to add an accessory like a wrap, robe, kimono, or a feather boa.

If your body shape is an Hour Glass: This body type is equally proportioned on both the top and bottom with a smaller waist. Almost everything worked well for this body type

What Not to Wear

Beautiful lingerie and indulging yourself go together. Keeping your lingerie in good condition and properly cared for will extend its use and will help you feel comfortable and sexy. Even though most of the lingerie we wear is not seen, it still has a big affect on the way we look and the way our clothes fit. Looking fantastic makes you feel beautiful. Here are a few hints:

• Make sure your lingerie isn’t worn, ripped or the wrong size.
• Thongs and G Strings worn under tight fitting skirts and pants will prevent panty lines from showing.
• Legs look sexy and slimmer in black nylons.
• Light colors make your legs appear heavier.
• A one-piece body suit does a great job of hiding any bulges and makes you look slimmer.
• Always, and this can’t be stressed enough, wear a bra that fits correctly.

Some of us, when we think lingerie, immediately think of sexy, lacy pieces that take about 10 minutes to actually get into and about 30 seconds to take off.

You know the pieces I’m talking about–the ones that are really meant to be some eye candy for a bit but are quickly thrown to the floor a few minutes later.

Having a few of these ridiculously sexy pieces can be a ton of fun for anniversaries, special occasions, or just to surprise your husband just because! But the problem we can run into with this kind of lingerie is that it sits in the back of the dresser or the back of the closet to just be pulled out a few times a year.

And the rest of the year we’re in gym shorts and ratty t-shirts.

But many who are reading this may think “lingerie” and get incredibly uncomfortable.

Maybe you feel uncomfortable about how your body looks in lingerie. Maybe you want to be sexier, but when you try on some of those crazy sexy pieces you just feel ridiculous. Maybe you even feel a bit of shame around the idea of lingerie.

No matter if you’re the type who gravitates towards the special occasion lingerie or no lingerie at all, I want to challenge you to re-think lingerie’s role in your daily life. This month, on Wednesdays, we’re going to be talking about how to reclaim the word sexy and bring sexy back to our marriages, and I thought I’d start with a week about choosing lingerie. I’m going to let Rebecca take this one over today, because she has some pretty firm views on the subject!

In previous generations, lingerie wasn’t just something you received at your bachelorette party.

Lingerie was simply your underthings–slips, brassieres, garters and stockings were all just a normal part of what you wore under your clothes. And then at night, women wore silk or satin night gowns, teddies, or top and bottom pieces with a robe that were clothes specifically set aside for nightwear.

And they looked awesome. Seriously, look how gorgeous these slips are (again, this was normal everyday wear!)

I think that with our over-airbrushed, over-edited, over-photoshopped modern culture we have this mindset that in order to be sexy, we need to be over the top. We need the skimpiest piece we can get that makes our boobs look as huge as possible while our waist looks incredibly slim in order to be sexy.

But the problem with that mentality is two-fold. First off, most of us will not look like models because of body type, having kids, surgeries, or what have you. Secondly, that just takes a whole lot of work. And the more work something takes, the less often it will happen.

What would happen if we went back to thinking about lingerie the way that women did in the past, where it was something comfortable and feminine that was just a part of our daily routine?

I don’t think we need to start wearing full-body slips again under our clothes. But just the idea that we can have simply, day-to-day items that are feminine, flattering, and incredibly comfy can revitalize how you see and choose lingerie.

I personally think that having a small but thoughtfully chosen lingerie collection that is appropriate for everyday wear is a game changer for sexual confidence. There’s something about having on a nightgown instead of your paint-stained gym shorts and the camp T-shirt that just makes you feel so much more put together and feminine, even though it takes literally no more effort to put on (and is just as comfy, if you choose the right pieces!).

So here are some tips and some questions to ask yourself when buying lingerie to help you choose pieces that are better for your lifestyle and better for your body so you can feel confident, beautiful, and sexy on a daily basis!

1. Focus on creating a functional lingerie wardrobe

We all need a few of those “wow” factor pieces I was talking about earlier–the ones that come out on anniversaries and birthdays. And we completely endorse shopping for some of that in the mall’s lingerie stores.

But when it comes to buying lingerie you’ll actually wear, focus on functional pieces. Pieces that can also be pyjamas, pieces that are also actual undergarments that you already wear but just a little nicer. For instance, many people swear by thongs, but others find them just plain uncomfortable. No one wants a permanent wedgie! But you don’t need a thong to have pretty underwear:

The ones on the left are still pretty without feeling “granny”, but they also won’t give you wedgies.

It’s better to buy lingerie that is pretty that you’ll actually wear than stuff you think you’re supposed to wear but you won’t because it’s uncomfortable.

Changing this mentality can help us get used to seeing ourselves more as womanly, beautiful, and sexy on a day-to-day basis. (And sex is much less exhausting to think about when you’re already wearing a cute nightgown or tank and shorts set that makes you feel beautiful and flirty than when you’re wearing a stained t-shirt and sweat pants!)

2. Try bra and panty sets

Bra and panty sets can be a lot of fun if that’s your cup of tea! And the best part is that throughout the day you’ll feel like you have a secret outfit on underneath of your real outfit–one that just you and your husband know about.

Investing in some great bras and pairs of underwear is helpful in more than one way, too: it will help you feel confident and beautiful, but it also just helps your clothes fit better! You will have fewer underwear lines, show off your curves better, and if you have large breasts having a well-fitted bra can help relieve back pain, as well.

If you’re someone who is uncomfortable with the idea of lingerie or trying on “sexy” clothes, this is a fantastic place to start. You already wear bras and underwear, so why not have fun with them? It can be a great stepping stone for those of us who are less comfortable with trying new things!

And colour can be as sexy as shape. Take the same beige bra you already wear, but make it purple with polka dots. You’ll feel more playful!

Make an appointment at a good lingerie store or a good department store for a proper bra fitting (the vast majority of us are wearing the wrong bra size; most of us need to go DOWN a band size and UP a cup size). And then try on a bunch! When you find a pretty bra that looks great, buy a few pairs of underwear (since bras can be worn more than once before washing, whereas underwear can only be worn once!). You can get everything from the high end Simone Perele bras to the lower end Victoria Secret. Have some fun trying them on!

Lingerie is an awesome way to give your man a sexy surprise and get him instantly in the mood. Most guys love the look and feel of lingerie on a woman’s body, be it lace, chiffon or satin. You can easily spice up a dull sex life or give a great sex life an incredible boost with the right lingerie.

However, choosing the right lingerie can feel like an ordeal, especially if it’s something you’re new too. It’s easy to feel confused and unsure of what to get with so many choices available. Here are ten guidelines that will help you choose the perfect lingerie that your man will love, and that you look and feel great in. You’ll find more great tips on how to be sexually adventurous in this article here.

1. IS THE LINGERIE OF GOOD QUALITY? 

It’s important that you choose lingerie that is of good quality. While you don’t have to purchase the most expensive lingerie on the rack, cheap lingerie that is of poor quality doesn’t feel good and it usually won’t look good either. Don’t buy poor quality lingerie just for the sake of buying lingerie, and remember that inexpensive doesn’t necessarily mean cheap. 

Pay attention to how the garment itself is made, and make sure there is no frayed stitching or tears. The fabric should have a quality look and feel, and it should be obvious that the garment is made with care. Spending a little more on lingerie that will last longer and looks great on you is well worth the extra money.

2. IS IT WITHIN YOUR BUDGET?

Well made or not, the lingerie should fit your budget. The cost of the lingerie should also match the quality of the garment.

A pricey piece of lingerie that looks and feels like it cost pennies to make is not something you want to invest in. There are many affordable pieces of lingerie that look great, and if you want to purchase something that is outside of your price range, try saving up and getting it later or asking the store attendant if they have something similar at a lower price point. 

3. DOES IT FLATTER YOUR FIGURE? 

Truly the most critical aspect of any lingerie is whether or not it flatters your figure. You can wear lingerie and look amazing in it whether you’re athletic or curvy, but the type of lingerie you choose matters. A great piece of lingerie should highlight your best features and downplay your flaws. It doesn’t matter if you’re tiny or have more to love, you can look great in lingerie if you just choose pieces that fit you. 

For example, if you are self conscious about your middle but have an excellent rack, the lingerie should lift your bust but have longer fabric that lays over your belly, like a empire waist teddy.

If you have a small bust but gorgeous badonk-a-donk, the lingerie should shape your bust but show off your hot “ass”-et. No matter what kind of lingerie it is, it’s important that it be fitted to keep your man’s attention on your smokin’ bod, while masking things that you might be self conscious about. For more on how to dress sexy, check out this article.

4. IS IT COMFORTABLE TO WEAR? 

Good lingerie needs to be as comfortable to wear as sexy as it is on. Lingerie that is itchy, hot, or tight is going to make wearing it a total bummer — plus, your man might very well notice that you’re uncomfortable and be distracted from getting turned on.

The last thing you want to do is be scratching, wiggling or fooling with straps because you’re uncomfortable, when you should be focused on lighting your man’s fire.

Always try lingerie on before you buy it, and make sure you could wear it comfortably for several hours before you make the purchase. You might not be wearing it that long, but you need to be confident that it’s going to look and feel great when you put it on.

5. DO YOU FEEL SEXY IN IT? 

You should always feel amazing when you wear lingerie. That’s the whole point of lingerie.

Any piece of lingerie that doesn’t make you feel like the beautiful betty you are isn’t worth the money, plain and simple. When you try on lingerie, make sure you feel like a super sexy bombshell before you swipe your credit card and take it home.

It doesn’t matter how much or how little skin it shows, or how great it looks on someone else — if you feel frumpy or less-than-stellar when you put it on, put it back. Only purchase lingerie that makes you feel like a million bucks. For more tips on feeling and being sexy.

Also, if you feel anxious at the thought of buying and wearing lingerie, then you should use some of these tips to help get rid of your sexual anxiety.

6. IS IT EASY TO TAKE OFF AND CAN YOU HAVE SEX IN IT?

While your man will definitely be into a striptease if you want to take off your lingerie before having sex, it might be even hotter to keep it on while you get down to it.

So a good question to ask is if you even can have sex in it. A skin tight leather body suit that barely lets you move isn’t going to fit the bill, nor is a piece of lingerie that has too many straps or doesn’t allow for good movement. You want lingerie that allows you to move freely and get into a variety of different positions when you’re wearing it without the need for a whole lot of adjustment. 

When you try lingerie on, imagine having sex in it. If you’re pretty sure that the lingerie would move and grind with you as you get it on, you can check this point off your list. 

7. ARE THE COLORS SIMPLE? 

Neon lingerie hardly even looks good in the nightclub, and it’s probably not going to look good in the bedroom. Steer clear of super colorful items when choosing lingerie. Simple colors without bright or busy patterns are best, and you can never, ever go wrong with basic black. Black lingerie is sexy and flattering for all body shapes and skin tones.

Red is also a good color, and white can give you a look of “innocence” that is fun and playful even beyond your wedding night. Any combination of these colors is awesome too, but steer clear of nude or skin-tone lingerie. You might as well just be naked in that case.

8. DOES IT PAIR WELL WITH ACCESSORIES? 

It’s not uncommon for a man to only notice your sexy stilettos or your jewelry when you’re wearing lingerie, so take advantage of this and make sure the lingerie you choose pairs well with accessories.

Does the neckline of the lingerie make room for a sweet and sexy necklace that shows off your cleavage, or does it lend itself well to the look of heels or thigh high boots? Before you purchase your lingerie, think about what you would wear with it and if it would look good. No lingerie is complete without a few titillating accessories.

9. DOES IT SHOW ENOUGH SKIN? 

While long nightgowns might technically count as lingerie, they’re probably not going to get your man hot and heavy.

He’ll really just want to take it off. Many men prefer to see lingerie that shows more skin instead of less and leaves only a little to the imagination (they don’t want to have to imagine the whole thing). Choose lingerie that shows a decent amount of skin and only covers up the important areas. Even better is lingerie that gives your man a glimpse of the goods under sheer lace or chiffon, so he can just barely see everything. 

10. WILL IT TURN YOUR MAN ON?

The second most important aspect of lingerie (other than it flatters your figure) is that it turns your man on. If it won’t, you might as well leave it in the store because it will just make for a pointless purchase. Many women think that any lingerie will turn a guy on, but this isn’t necessarily true.

Every guy is different with what he likes and doesn’t like, and it’s critical that you take his preferences into consideration before you buy a thing. Have you heard him mention that he loves the look of garter belts? Does he seem especially interested in push up bras? Factor anything he loves into your lingerie purchase to ensure that you’ll “wow” your man when he sees you donning your new outfit. 

Lingerie can be a purchase that lasts a lifetime and keeps your sex life hot if you follow these basic guidelines on choosing pieces that turn your man on, make you feel super sexy and look great on your body. The right lingerie can not only capture your man’s attention and keep it solely on you, it can make you feel like a sexy princess.

Remember though, confidence is the number one accessory to have when you wear lingerie. More than any push up bra or sexy pair of shoes, confidence will turn your man on and get him ready for action. Give him a sexy smile when you’re showing off your new lingerie, and let him see that you know you look amazing. 

CBD for Sex

For those who suffer from stress, performance anxiety or pain in the bedroom, CBD-infused pleasure enhancers are here to help. In recent years, medical experts and scientists have tapped into CBD’s healing properties, including decreased inflammation, improved gut health, calmed nerves, enhanced sleep and more. However, beyond medicinal purposes, cannabidiol can also be used to give your sex life a boost.

As the non-psychoactive ingredient in the marijuana plant, CBD can alleviate inhibition during sex, as well as reduce pain during penetration and enhance sensations. In other words, instead of using another substance (i.e., alcohol) to unwind, CBD can provide similar effects without the hangover or fuzzy memories. In fact, because cannabidiol helps with insomnia , incorporating an edible, vaporizer or CBD-infused lube can actually improve post-sex sleep.

1. Improving Desire

Cannabis can be used as an aphrodisiac in many ways: smoking, vaping, lubricants and eating cannabis chocolates are all popular ways to achieve its aphrodisiac effects. In other words, while the most well-known benefits of CBD are tailored toward anxiety and pain, there’s also a chance that it can help with arousal and desire levels. When applied topically, the CBD and THC dilate your blood vessels, allowing fresh oxygenated blood to flow more easily. In other words, CBD and TCH are vasodilators. Typically, fresh oxygenated blood is associated with increased arousal and stimulation.

2. Relieving Pain

If chronic discomfort or sexual dysfunction are problems, CBD may also be able to help with pain during sex. Studies show that CBD is a potent anti-inflammatory and can be effective as an adjunct treatment for pain. For example, topical, whole-plant CBD balm can help women experiencing painful sexual intercourse due to vaginal dryness or irritation. CBD lube also does the trick.

3. Decreasing Anxiety

One of the many ways that people use CBD is to help fight anxiety and improve their mental state. CBD works directly on the body’s endocannabinoid system,  a complex network of receptors in the body that help regulate the nervous system, immune system and the body’s organs. Those receptors, when activated by the body’s own endocannabinoids, can have an anti-anxiety effect on the brain. Furthermore, using CBD in the bedroom can create a feeling of calm, relaxation and elation, translating into enhanced sexual pleasure.

4. Strengthening Sensations

When it comes to the female reproductive tract, cannabinoid receptors are found in the uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, vagina and vulva, and they play a significant role in the day-to-day pleasures and pain associated with sex. These receptors are key in improving low libido and the inability to achieve orgasms. Men experiencing issues with erectile dysfunction may also benefit from using CBD. As previously mentioned, CBD increases blood flow and nerve sensation, which can help enhance sexual pleasure and intensify orgasms for all parties.

5. Enhancing Foreplay

To help tune into the physical experience of foreplay, CBD lube enhances sensation and climax. Largely due to its ability to repair tissue damage and improve blood flow to the genitals, a coconut oil-based CBD lube is gaining popularity. Combined with THC, the psychoactive component of cannabis, men and women report an enhanced sex drive. Plus, CBD lube relieves women of the pain they sometimes feel during penetration as it relaxes the tissues surrounding the sex organ.

6. Relaxing with CBD Body Oil

Fast-absorbing and lightweight, using a sensorial body oil offers targeted topical relief as well as natural energy. In between the sheets, try a CBD-infused body oil to reduce muscle tension and create a soothing sensation. The therapeutic blend of essential oils combined with full-spectrum cannabinoids leverage the natural power of the whole plant. Before getting frisky, massage your partner’s back and arms with CBD body oil.

Edie Horstman is a certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, wellness blogger, and freelance writer. She works with health-focused brands, co-creating content in the digital marketing space. She lives in Denver, Colorado.

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